– Dr. Mahire Haji Ekber –
Beden tüzülüshüm periqlenmeydu,
Zongtungning xanishi hilaridin …
Zilwa ösken serwidek.
Romantik firansiyelik ayaldek,
Lékin ténimdin taralmas,
Firansiye ettirining xushbuy purighi,
Belkim chéchimgha singip ketkendu,
Men etken poluning mizilik hidi…
Belkim chachlirim uningdek tal-tal emes,
Lékin oxshutup étimen chachtek leghmenni.
Chéchimdinmu uzun muhebbetni
We yaki hesretni…
Özgiler qehweni ésil deydiken,
Qehweni öziche hayat deydiken.
Lékin men qehwe emes,
Men özem künde étidighan,
Tuz-temi tétighan qaymaq chay,
Xeqler her küni ichidighan,
Lékin gépini qilishmaydighan,
Men bolka emes ,
Téshi körkem ichi kawak,
Men quyash nan,
Üch waq yisimu zérikmeydighan,
Bahasi asanliqiche örlimeydighan,
Birer abroy orunni közlimeydighan.
Men unchiwala hewes qilmaymen…
Kinolardiki we yaki ay sharidiki,
Erliri gül bérip turidighan ayallargha,
Chünki méning qolum gül,
Öyüm gül, hoylam gül,
Qazan qomush choylam gül,
Gülümni bérip turimen gahida,
Gül ünmigen baharlargha…
Chöl – deshtilerge saylargha.
Men hewes qilmaymen
Éridin ma’ash alidighan
Chünki men özem heqni halal tapimen,
Gézi kelgende bir öynimu baqimen,
Halal yashap pak yashap,
Égisining aldigha meghrur barimen…
Men heset qilmaymen,
Tamaq etmisimu bolidighan ,kitab yazidighan
Men kitabni yürikimde yazimen,
Kitab yazidighan qolum xémirda,
Arzulirim ,armanlirim yalqunjaydu,
Yürekning chongqur qétida …
Men chong bilmeymen anna axmatuwani,
Chünki méning qelbim uningdin otluq,
Ilhamlirim déngizdin dolqunluq,
Misralirim hararetlik yalqunluq.
Érimdin yoshurunche yéziwalimen,
Érim kirse asta tiqiwalimen,
Yaki qazan béshigha ötüwalimen,
Oqup bérimen aylargha, yultuzlargha,
Ular shundaq hozurlinidu,
Érim putbol musabiqisidin hozurlan’ghandek….
Men uyghur ayal,
Men xotenlik ayal,
Érim bilen étizda kechkiche ishlep harmaydighan,
Men bolmisam öyde birer waq qazan qaynimaydighan.
Men ghuljiliq ayal,
Érimning yaqisidiki changni sümüriwalidighan.
U emgek qilmisimu ,
Etigini uzutup kechte chirayliq kütüwalidighan.
Men atushluq ayal,
Her éghir yüklerni ,
Érimgha bermey kötürüwalidighan.
Men uyghur ayal,
Érim künlep qalghan sayemgimu ,
Manga baqmay kün’ge baqti dep doq qilsa,
Güllirimu ikkinchi aynimaydighan.
Men uyghur ayal,
Érimni egip yürgen yaki érim béqip yürgen,
Yawa qushlarni ashkare qoghlimaydighan.
Héch bolmisa bashqilarning aldida sorimaydighan.
Hem ghurursiz hem ghururluq,
Hem wijdansiz hem söyümlük.
Eng qimmetlik ghururimni,
Köksi qarnim teklimakandek,
Merd – merdane sadir palwandek.
Yutiwétimen taghdek ghemlerni,
Kechüriwétimen erdek erlerni,
Lékin kechürelmeymen kechürginimni.
Men uyghur ayal,
Men uyghur ayal
Bir erni qiriq yil söyidighan,
Bir otta qiriq yil köyidighan,
Hemmige üntinsiz könidighan.
Men uyghur ayal,
Tömür ayal emes,
Qish uzirap ketse,
Illiq mart shamiligha,
Telpünimen yene telpünimen.
Menbe: Ündidar sehipiliri
Whether they beat themselves up over a mistake they made yesterday or fret about how they’re going to succeed tomorrow, overthinkers are plagued by distressing thoughts—and their inability to get out of their own heads leaves them in a state of constant anguish.
While everyone overthinks things once in a while, some people just can’t ever seem to quiet the constant barrage of thoughts. Their inner monologue includes two destructive thought patterns—ruminating and worrying.
Ruminating involves rehashing the past:
Worrying involves negative—often catastrophic—predictions about the future:
Overthinkers don’t just use words to contemplate their lives. Sometimes, they conjure up images. too. They may envision their car going off the road or replay a distressing event in their minds like a movie. Either way, their tendency to overthink everything holds them back from doing something productive.
The Dangers Of Overthinking
Thinking too much about things isn’t just a nuisance; it can take a serious toll on your well-being. Research(link is external) finds that dwelling on your shortcomings, mistakes, and problems increases your risk of mental-health problems. And as your mental health declines, your tendency to ruminate increases, leading to a vicious cycle that is hard to break.
Studies(link is external) also show that overthinking leads to serious emotional distress. To escape that distress, many overthinkers resort to unhealthy coping strategies, such as alcohol or food.
If you’re an overthinker, you likely already know you can’t sleep when your mind won’t shut off. Studies(link is external) confirm this, finding that rumination and worry lead to fewer hours of sleep and poorer sleep quality.
How To Stop Overthinking
Putting an end to rehashing, second-guessing, and catastrophic predictions is easier said than done. But with consistent practice, you can limit your negative thinking patterns:
1. Notice When You’re Thinking Too Much
Awareness is the first step in putting an end to overthinking. Start paying attention to the way you think. When you notice yourself replaying events in your mind over and over, or worrying about things you can’t control, acknowledge that your thoughts aren’t productive.
2. Challenge Your Thoughts
It’s easy to get carried away with negative thoughts. Before you conclude that calling in sick is going to get you fired, or that forgetting one deadline is going to cause you to become homeless, acknowledge that your thoughts may be exaggeratedly negative. Learn to recognize and replace thinking errors before they work you into a complete frenzy.
3. Keep The Focus On Active Problem-Solving
Dwelling on your problems isn’t helpful, but looking for solutions is. Ask yourself what steps you can take to learn from a mistake or avoid a future problem. Instead of asking why something happened, ask yourself what you can do about it.
4. Schedule Time For Reflection
Stewing on problems for long periods of time isn’t productive, but brief reflection can be helpful. Thinking about how you could do things differently or recognizing potential pitfalls to a plan, for example, can help you do better in the future. Incorporate 20 minutes of “thinking time” into your daily schedule. During this time, let yourself worry, ruminate, or mull over whatever you want. Then, when the time is up, move onto something more productive. When you notice yourself overthinking things outside of your scheduled time, remind yourself that you’ll think about it later.
5. Practice Mindfulness
It’s impossible to rehash yesterday or worry about tomorrow when you’re living in the present. Commit to becoming more aware of the here and now. Mindfulness takes practice, like any other skill, but over time, it can decrease overthinking.
6. Change The Channel
Telling yourself to stop thinking about something can backfire. The more you try to avoidthe thought from entering your brain, the more likely it is to keep popping up. Busying yourself with an activity is the best way to change the channel. Exercise, engage in conversation on a completely different subject, or get working on a project that will distract your mind from a barrage of negative thoughts.
Want to learn more about how to give up the bad habits that rob you of mental strength? Pick up a copy of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do(link is external).
Interested in building mental strength? Enroll in my eCourse Mental Strength: Mastering the 3 Core Factors(link is external)